girl, u just in the same situation am in, u meet someone sleep with them n later u realize it aint working. My situation is almost like urs but there is no kid involved. Do yourself a favour, hit the road before its too late. Most of this online rel is about sex n love doesnt grow. Me it reached a point i started to fantasize with other girls coz my intimacy with her was dead.

Answered by wesleygk at Mar 19, 2010 09:52 AM

First of all, am sorry for this situation, I totally understand where you are at. Am a father and I ended up separating with the mother of the child coz we decided to settle down together for the wrong reason - because she got pregnant. Do not be afraid of leaving him thinking you will hurt him, trust him you will hurt him more if you stay on. Its also better for you to bring up the child alone or with his support if he is willing but while apart than to have him there and you are always fighting, that affects the child badly.

Answered by gmaina at Mar 20, 2010 10:43 PM

Thanks guys very much. I've told him in the past that we should live separately but he feels that I'm trying to keep him away from his daughter who he adores and cares for more than anything in this world. I know now that for her sake, I have to make the difficult decision of probably walking away and letting him have custody of her. The thought itself makes me sick but it may be the best option.

Answered by kanyoni at Mar 20, 2010 11:09 PM

Please girl just leave, what you are doing now is growing the problem. Life is short, you should not really tie yourself somewhere you are not happy. Please do this for you and your daughter.

Answered by shygirl at Mar 20, 2010 11:18 PM

o differ. see a family counsellor b4 you throw it out. true most net talks are about sex but there must be something else that kept you talking. Live in relationships are not easy you actually have to work at it. Please see a family counsellor and rake it from there unless your life & that of your daughters is at risk .

Answered by tryinghard at Mar 23, 2010 08:38 PM

hi kanyoni,well i dont judge u but at this point the concern should be ur daughter.u too decided to get maried so u can save that girl from any trauma of not having both parents.although u two should try and make things work just think of the kids intrest.you two should sit down and talk.if it does not work i think u should call it quits coz u cannot live unhappy life.think about it!

Answered by renex at Apr 15, 2010 10:16 AM

I dont intend to judge u bt i must tell u the truth. You may leave, bt am not sure u wil escape this again in future u play the same game. To me u guys went to the net to look for sex because the ve very first time u met sex, u had sex which left u pregnant. So u found uaself in a crisis n you had to give in to a marriage u had not wanted. We call it marriage by crisis. It wil never work out because that marriage that lasts is founded on love and not pregnancy or a child like in your case. For u n others who will read this. Never give in to sexual pressure before u know ua patner well which will make u comfortable to allow him/her to be the father/mother to ua child. If possible, avoid sex before marriage.

Answered by Anonymous at May 16, 2010 10:53 PM

I dont intend to judge u bt i must tell u the truth. You may leave, bt am not sure u wil escape this again in future u play the same game. To me u guys went to the net to look for sex because the ve very first time u met sex, u had sex which left u pregnant. So u found uaself in a crisis n you had to give in to a marriage u had not wanted. We call it marriage by crisis. It wil never work out because that marriage that lasts is founded on love and not pregnancy or a child like in your case. For u n others who will read this. Never give in to sexual pressure before u know ua patner well which will make u comfortable to allow him/her to be the father/mother to ua child. If possible, avoid sex before marriage.

Answered by Anonymous at May 16, 2010 10:54 PM

I dont intend to judge u bt i must tell u the truth. You may leave, bt am not sure u wil escape this again in future u play the same game. To me u guys went to the net to look for sex because the ve very first time u met sex, u had sex which left u pregnant. So u found uaself in a crisis n you had to give in to a marriage u had not wanted. We call it marriage by crisis. It wil never work out because that marriage that lasts is founded on love and not pregnancy or a child like in your case. For u n others who will read this. Never give in to sexual pressure before u know ua patner well which will make u comfortable to allow him/her to be the father/mother to ua child. If possible, avoid sex before marriage.

Answered by Anonymous at May 16, 2010 10:55 PM

I dont intend to judge u bt i must tell u the truth. You may leave, bt am not sure u wil escape this again in future u play the same game. To me u guys went to the net to look for sex because the ve very first time u met sex, u had sex which left u pregnant. So u found uaself in a crisis n you had to give in to a marriage u had not wanted. We call it marriage by crisis. It wil never work out because that marriage that lasts is founded on love and not pregnancy or a child like in your case. For u n others who will read this. Never give in to sexual pressure before u know ua patner well which will make u comfortable to allow him/her to be the father/mother to ua child. If possible, avoid sex before marriage.

Answered by Anonymous at May 16, 2010 10:56 PM

I dont intend to judge u bt i must tell u the truth. You may leave, bt am not sure u wil escape this again in future if u play the same game. To me u guys went to the net to look for sex because the ve very first time u met, u had sex which left u pregnant. So u found uaself in a crisis n you had to give in to a marriage u had not wanted. We call it marriage by crisis. It wil never work out because marriage that lasts is founded on love and not lust, pregnancy or a child like in your case. For u n others who will read this. Never give in to sexual pressure before u know ua patner well enough to be comfortable to allow him/her to be the father/mother to ua child. If possible, avoid sex before marriage.

Answered by Anonymous at May 16, 2010 11:00 PM